I have seen too many folks following trends instead of making their own love story in their relationship. If you must have a healthy relationship, one of the factor you must consider is making your own love story is not merely following trends of others. There is a saying that "if you follow the crowd, you may miss the crown. I pray that you will not miss the crown in Jesus name. Amen!
Do not follow trends, make your own love story. Do not be pressured by some folks posting their pictures on social media, when all they post is the happy part of their relationship. Do not be compelled to post selfies as to where you and your partner went for lunch. Do not be push to be labeled #relationshipgoals just because you and your partner are smiling in your photos. Do not make a fairytale story about your relationship, because both of you know it is not a fairytale at all.
Make your relationship different from the others. Everyone is different, and everyone experiences love differently. Some have it better than others. Do not believe in mere love at first sight, but believe in love. Be able to love each other without the expectations of others getting in your way. Let your uniqueness to be an asset and not a liability for both of you. Be private, do not publicized because relationships are a two-way; private and public. This does not mean that you should mask your relationship from your family. Do not allow anyone to drive in your way and distract you, be careful of third party. Do not allow your facebook friends, twitter, Whatsapp, instagram followers and friends from other social media to always know where both of you are at the moment, because it’s none of their business. Do not allow them to also know that both of you had a misunderstanding because honestly, most of them don’t care. Limit the show off attitude. Keep memories private and not public.
Be each other best friend. Always strive to hear about how your partner day went when you meet for dinner or for lunch after not seeing each other for a while. Always be there for each other, especially when your partner is sad, lonely, or moody. Listen to each other’s fears, anxieties, and problems. Be the first to know about each other’s achievements and failures. Tell stories to each other relentlessly, without fear of being judged, because both of you know that you won’t judge each other.
Choose each other on every waking moment you have. Do not break up just because of a mountain that started from a molehill. Face struggle head-on, not to avoid them at all costs. Always choose to love each other even on days when you hate one another. Be loyal and faithful to each other. Temptations will always be around, so it will be up to both of you on what you want to do with it. Be able to control each other’s urges, because I believe both of you gave promises to each other. Be able to stay committed and true to each other in a world that’s full of lies.
Do not be a conformist. Have your own version, your unique story to tell your future children. Strive to make them inspired to have their relationships their way and not just conform to what social media expects from them. Strive to be happy to tell them how your relationship started and how it lasted this long. Desire to get a surprised look on their faces when they ask you both how were you able to hold on to each other for such a long time. Make them realize that writing their own love story is and will be always a lot of times better than patterning them after someone else’s.
Make your own love story, and be genuinely happy while recalling those memories on the days when both of you are already old. Do not be a conformist, don't mast your relationship from your parent and family but never make it a public show. Be guided! I believe you were blessed and inspired by this article. You can drop your comments and share with others or contact me on +2348063199717, eghosa4christ@gmail.com
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True saying
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